I have a friend, who happens to be one of my bridesmaids, and she sent me a text this past weekend asking who pays for the bachelorette party (not related to my wedding, she has another wedding this summer). Although I have never been in a wedding, and I'm not sure where I got this from, but I always though the bridesmaids pay for themselves and split the cost of the bride, then other guests attending pay for themselves.
My BM responded that she thought that it was tacky to ask guests to pay for themselves and she thought bridesmaids should pay for everyone. Her reasoning was, a bridesmaid wouldn't ask a guest to pay their way for a shower, so why is this different?
As someone who has never been to a bachelorette party, I'm a bit stumped. I've always assumed each girl paid their own way, except of course the bride. I feel like I must have read this somewhere.
What do you think, is it the bridesmaid's responsibility to pay for everyone in attendance? What have your experiences been?
Friday, June 19, 2009
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Unless the bridesmaids are millionaires, I think it's crazy to assume they must pay for everyone! I've only been to 2 bachelorette parties (and one was rather tame, just a fancy dinner because the bride was pregnant)and I've always paid my own way! The bridal party is usually responsible for the bride's portion, but everyone else pays their own way if they want to go, and of course everyone buys the bride drinks all night long :)
Everyone pays for themselves and then the bridesmaids typically split the cost of the bride. This is how it has been done for every bachelorette party I have been too.
I have been to about a million and one Bachelorette parties and the guests normally pay there own way... This is more casual girls night out situation so think of that way... Usually the bridal party splits the cost of the bride and any decorations, hotel room Etc..
I think it really depends on what you're doing and how many people you have. For example- we have 2 main activities going on for mine. the later half of the night we're going for dinner, drinks & dancing with a larger group and I would be appalled if my girls wanted to pay for everyone attending- they'd have to be millionaires to afford that! However, the earlier part of the party is just me & the girls in the bridal party (not just the bridesmaids, but the fg, rb/fg's mom, & the mothers.) we're going to glamour shots & the girls are paying for it entirely even though I said I didn't mind chipping in for it since it's something I really, really wanted to do.
all the other parties I've been to the guests usually pay for themselves individually with the bride being covered by the BM's.
I agree with the other girls. The BM's pay for themselves & the bride. Any other guest takes care of themselves!
I think it's kind of ridiculous for the bridesmaids to pay for the other guests at the bach party. In most cases, this is not a party that is being held at someone's house or a restaurant. You normally go to dinner and then on the town or something. I don't know any of my friends that would expect the bridesmaids to pay their way for the bach party.
The only thing the BMs should pay for are themselves and any "paraphanalia." You know, buttons, boas, koozies, decorations, etc. As far as what is paid for for the bride, I think that depends on what type of party you're having. A lot of girls do trips for bach parties now. In that case, we've always always bought the bride one nice dinner and some drinks out, but don't normally pay for their hotel, flight, gas, etc. But none of my friends who were brides expected that eitehr. We've always just wanted to go out and celebrate and have fun.
But I def dont think BMs should pay for the other guests
Ok, I think that the bridesmaid must not pay alone the bachelorette parties, all assistants must help her, because all will enjoy the party.
Just like you suspected, I think it's highly irregular for the BMs to pay for everyone at the bachelorette! The BMs usually cover the bride's expenses, although I think I paid for everything at my own bach. except hotel and the poolside cabana.
It's good to tknow I'm not crazy! I think it would be too much for the beridesmaids to pay for everyone, especially since they already help with so much!
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