tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4589628006224811503.post339681101841675263..comments2024-03-18T07:08:42.579-04:00Comments on Newport Nuptials: The Best Planning Decision, Pt.1starfishhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12134630724762643034noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4589628006224811503.post-3076386888315660062009-11-19T13:39:09.320-05:002009-11-19T13:39:09.320-05:00i love how the Catholic Church created pre cana cl...i love how the Catholic Church created pre cana classes that centered around the couple's relationship. it really was a blessing when we attended our engaged encounter weekend and i always tell everyone they must attend theirs.honey my hearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02060858692790978041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4589628006224811503.post-4744210036228581002009-11-18T07:22:42.480-05:002009-11-18T07:22:42.480-05:00@ littlemissramble: I keep hearing about the FOCCU...@ littlemissramble: I keep hearing about the FOCCUS test, but we never had to take it. I kind of wish we did. I just think it would be interesting.starfishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12134630724762643034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4589628006224811503.post-17045106706124695372009-11-13T11:38:59.959-05:002009-11-13T11:38:59.959-05:00I was really nervous when it came to our marriage ...I was really nervous when it came to our marriage prep in the Catholic Church, too. My FI and I were both raised Catholic, but we attended three separate churches between the two of us. We opted to get married in a church near our house (we live together, too) to avoid any favoritism accusations from either side of the family.<br /><br />I was really nervous, since a) we live together and b) both our sets of parents are divorced. Yeah, that was an awkward conversation, telling our priest why our parents split up. He even made a comment that although both my parents attended Mass almost every Sunday, they evidently weren't listening. Um, ouch. But I saw where he was coming from.<br /><br />We haven't started our official pre-Cana exercises yet, but we did do the FOCCUS assesment, and are waiting to hear back from our priest about it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4589628006224811503.post-4955880018000660102009-11-13T08:22:57.953-05:002009-11-13T08:22:57.953-05:00I am glad to hear that everything went smoothly! W...I am glad to hear that everything went smoothly! We encountered all sorts of trouble when we first started planning our wedding. I am Lutheran and knew I wanted to be married by a Lutheran Pastor. My childhood Pastor found out last minute that he was being deployed (he is in the Marines) so he was unable to marry us. Another Pastor that I knew (was really good friends with his kids in school) had a schedule conflict. So we ended up contacting a Pastor that we had never met before. I was TERRIFIED because I had heard that some Pastor's would not marry you if you lived together prior to marriage. He ended up being so cool about the entire situation. Of course he did not condone it but he totally understood our reasoning. It was such a relief! <br /><br />I definitely understand the stress and fear that you went through. I mean, you can't exactly get married without an officiant! Glad it all ended well!LauraAnnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13029801550359969755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4589628006224811503.post-17579507706916947362009-11-13T07:26:13.907-05:002009-11-13T07:26:13.907-05:00We went to the class in Portsmouth RI for our pre-...We went to the class in Portsmouth RI for our pre-cana. We were dreading it but it turned out amazingly better than we both thought it would. We met some great couples that we spent the day with and got to hear from the "experts"...the couples who have been married for a long time, they figured it out so there's hope for the rest of us right? ;)Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00717229551734780531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4589628006224811503.post-5771645477475009672009-11-12T20:19:46.270-05:002009-11-12T20:19:46.270-05:00I was excited to do our pre-marital counseling and...I was excited to do our pre-marital counseling and it started off great. The officiant who is marrying us is meeting with us over the course of several months to walk us through some things as we prepare for marriage. Our officiant is my jr. high/high school pastor who I have known now for over 20 years. So I love that I have a personal real life connection to him. This however has worked out to be a disappointment because since my fiance and I are older (37 and 47) and I have a child from a previous boyfriend and my fiance is divorced, our pastor feels like we are different than your typical younger engaged couples. He feels like we are mature and have been through a lot of life experience. So he is being somewhat lacsidaisical (sp?) about our counseling and feeling like we don't need much. At our last meeting, he and my fiance spent about 25 minutes talking about surfing in Indonesia and then we quickly skimmed over our differences of opinion on finances. I'm thinking I need to be a bit more verbal about what we hope to get out of this :) Glad it is working out to be a great thing for you two. I whole heartedly encourage it!Born to be Mrs. Beeverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10186370322714278012noreply@blogger.com