Save the Dates: We're on a Mission

We spent months trying to figure out what our Save the Dates should look like. Mr. Newport likes magnets, because they are practical and well, I like magnets because it gives us an excuse to use a photo from the engagment shoot!

The problem is, we want to fit a lot of information and just one magnet won't do. We had trouble with the design side of the save the date, but the wording seemed to come more easy. It didn't hurt that I had read the article, Well Said- A Destination Save the Date, by Kristy Rice of Momental Designs on WeddingbeePRO.

Because our wedding will be a destination wedding for all of our guests, we want to include not just the date, but hotel accomodations information, a photo, a little introductory, and I was thinking a cute qoute would be fun too.

Then I read Kristy's article. She suggests a mission statement. Sounds funny for a save the date, but after reading what she meant, I think it's perfect. Some people don't understand why we have to have our wedding out of state. Well for one, no matter where we chose, someone would have to travel, our guests are pretty much from MA or Jersey. It's not really why we chose Newport, but it did add to things.

We really chose Newport for the special meaning to us. I'd love to convey this to our guests who may not understand why they have to travel out of state to see us say "I do". So after some WeddingbeePRO inspiration, here is my first draft for our Save the Dates:

"Newport is where we met and fell in love. It has been an integral part of our relationship from the first date to the proposal. The first 4 years of our relationship were spent enjoying the restaraunts and activities Newport has to offer. It is a beautiful place to fall in love and a wonderful place to visit.

We would love for you to share our wedding day and the special place that brought us together.

Please Save the Date 10/2010"

Did anyone else get inspired and include a "Mission Statement" for your Save the Dates?

Save the Dates: DIY Inspired

When we first got engaged, I just assumed we would be getting professionally made save the dates. I had found some really great options that I loved. Then entered Weddingbee. I started seeing so many amazing diy options and I fell in love. Sure professional save the dates are gorgeous and easy, but I wanted something super personal and I thought, hey I can do that! After seeing a bunch of fun hand made options.

Some of the options inspired me, and to be honest, some, like Mrs. Duckling's save the dates, intimidated me. I'm in love with her save the dates!
I started reading the posts under the save the date tag on Weddingbee. I was inspired by all the creativity, but even more excited that there were step by step instructions in many posts as well!

I was in love with all the creativity. It was a little overwhelming at first! I decided I needed to narrow down my favorites and find some real inspiration for ours.

I kept coming back to Mrs. Taffy's save the dates. One of my favorite things about her wedding is the consistency. I love the design theme she chose and the way it was wove throughout her entire wedding. Every detail fit in perfectly! Her save the dates were no exception. I love that her guests were given a glimpse of the style and colors.
Mrs. Corn's save the dates were another favorite. They look clean, classic, simple and undeniably Newport. I've been in love with her wedding from the beginning. After googling Newport weddings, I came across Mrs. Corn, who led me to Weddingbee. .
When I saw Mrs. Cheese's all I could think was SO FUN! They remind me of Mr. Newport. I want both of our personalities to come though in our save the dates, and he's so fun loving, that something like this would be perfect!
When I saw Mr.'s Lemonade's I was so inspired by all the details that went into it. I love how she incorporated a magent, a photo, envelope liners, all the information in a beautiful font, and I especially loved it because of the color scheme! So, now that we have all this inspiration, what to do? You'll have to wait and see!

Did you make your own save the dates or did you look to the professionals? Were you inspired by others?

Save the Date Inspiration

When we decided on a Newport wedding, we knew we'd have to give guests advanced notice. A resort town, even in the off season seems to be somewhat in demand- or at least, that's what they want you to think. Plus our guests are all coming from out of state, so we want to give advanced notice for accomodations. Since the save the date is the first item guests see related to the wedding, I wanted it to be a statement piece. I wasn't sure what statement, but I wanted it to convey the feel of our wedding.

So, I turned to the proffessionals for some inspiration.

I instantly fell in love with Laura Hooper save the dates. Her maps are so charming and cute. Perfect for a destination wedding. I love how she can include so many points of interest. I think it would be fun to have a map with our ceremony location, reception location, accomodations and some of our favorite Newport spots like Salve, the cliffwalk and Thames St.
Then I found Stinkerpants Celebrations. The cartoons are fun and whimsical. I love how personalized they are between the couple and fun back drops.
Then, when designing our wedding website, we chose a star fish theme that has coordinating paper from the Papeterie Store. I thought it would be fun to tie in our website design, since it has somewhat set the tone for our whole wedding. These Save the Dates would set the tone for our traditional, yet casual Newport Nuptials.
When we first started looking, we were undecided. Do we want something that represents the tone of our wedding, or something more fun and whimsical, or charming and cute?

Did you choose based on the tone the save the date set, or did you just got for a style you liked?

On the menu

We chose our venue for the amazing views, but it is also known for it's amazing food. The taste test is something we are both looking forward to. I like checking out the menu every now and then to try and figure out what we may choose, but they have a lot of really delicious options, so I think we'll just have to wait to see which tastes best!

I do want to be concious of our guests tastes. To try and make the food appealing to as many guests as possible, we are trying to include foods from different food groups. Our package includes three passed hor deurves, stations including cheeses, fruits and veggies, and two meal options.

I'm trying to decide how to make everyone happy- meat lovers, poultry lovers, seafood lovers and veggie lovers. For the cocktail hour the one thing I know for sure is, I want Bacon Wrapped Scallops. So seafood guests have one choice to make them happy -hopefully. Then should I include a meat, some type of chicken, or something vegetarian friendly? We only have one vegetarian and there are the fruits and cheeses, but I'd prefer to give him one option from the passed hor deurves, although I wouldn't know how to choose between a meat and chicken option for the third.

Then there is dinner, I know for sure we'll have filet mignon, as it is an option in our package and my favorite meal. But what to do for option number two? as a wedding guest. What do you prefer, seafood or chicken?

How did you decide what types of food groups to incorporate and at what part of the evening, cocktail or dinner?

The Best Planning Decision, Pt.2

In my other pre-cana post, I wrote about why we went through pre-cana and generally why we enjoyed it.

Mr. Newport and I tend to be opposites in every way. Especially in our methods of communication. I tend to talk and plan for the future, while he tends to live in the moment. We, scratch that, I had done a lot of talk about the future. I felt like we had many conversations, but in reality they were more one sided. When we went into pre-cana we went into it thinking it would be super preachy. Instead, our few classes were filled with skits on marriage, group discussions and activities. Many things were just conversation starters.

We ended up having the best conversations during our week of pre-cana. Mr. Newport opened up to me on a lot of issues we had skimmed the surface on, but hadn't really dealt with. I learned so much about him and our future from our classes.

For example, we have talked about kids many times. We talked about kids before we even started dating. We both knew what the other wanted, but we never knew why and had never come to an agreement on how many or when we would like them. During a class we were asked if we had already talked about kids. If so, who wants how many and when. Our responses were me: sooner, he: later, me: more, he: less (we didn't get into details of most things in the group, they were more things to think about and discuss when we get home). This was a conversation starter for sure. When we drove home we started talking about why he wanted less (that's what his parents did and he'd like to afford to give them a good life), why I want more (I come from a big family and want our kids to have a similar upbringing). We went deeper into things and it turned out he wanted less mainly because it's what he knew and felt he could offer more financially to a smaller amount of children. It ended up being a great conversation and we were really seeing where we were both coming from other than I want x amount, you want y amount.

This was one of our breakthroughs from pre-cana, but we actually left with a much better understaning of each other and learned how to better communicate- without them actully telling us how. I tried explaing it to others, but it's more something you have to go through yourself.

If you attended pre-cana or another type of marriage prep, did it have a positive effect on your relationship?

The Best Planning Decision, Pt.1

One of the best planning decisions we made was not actually by choice.

We knew we wanted to get married in a Catholic Church because it is important to us, both spiritully and emotionally. We also knew it would make my mom happy since I'm "her only hope" of having a child to have a catholic wedding. We kind of joke that we're doing it for her, but in reality, we both want to raise our children in the Catholic faith and hopefully they'll share in our values and beliefs. We want to start our catholic traditions and family values right from the start. And I say right from the start, although we already have these values, because I want it to be an important part of our lives as a family-which truly begins on our wedding day.

Having a Catholic wedding wasn't easy for us, at first. We aren't actively participating members of a church. When we called churches in Rhode Island, we were told by all of them that our priest would have to sign off. Not easily done when you don't have a priest.

At first, I complained and thought it would be impossible, but then we decided to take action. We were honest with my childhood church of our intentions. We let him know we wanted to join the church as members so that we could get married in a catholic church and our hopes for becoming more involved in the future. He was very understanding and we became members that day. He signed off on our marriage and wrote a letter to our church in Rhode Island. It seemed like a scray experience, because I felt like they would say no, but it ended up being a great experience. We now have a church that we belong to and are able to get married in a catholic church in RI.

Step 1 was over. The next requirement from our RI church was to attend pre-cana. I was absolutely dreading this. We live together, we have for over 4 years. I've heard rumors of people being condemmed for "living in sin" and didn't think I could handle it. Our church in MA also doesn't offer pre-cana, so we had to look elsewhere, so I felt like we'd be outsiders.

Our priest in MA gave us advice on where to look. We found a church that allowed us to join their pre-cana classes. The classes were on a Tuesday, Thursday and Saturday during the same week. It was a long drive away, which gave me time to stress beforehand.

When we arrived to the class, we were greeted by one of the couples and led to our table. Each table had a few engaged couples and the team leaders- who were a married couple. As soon as we sat down, our husband team leader introduced himself and asked how we were feeling. Mr. Newport explained I was nervous, and he told me he was too when he had attended 2 years ago. He said he was sick for three days, but to trust him. It's not what we expect.

After a few minutes in, we knew he was right. It wasn't the typical condemnation you hear about, and it wasn't even about the catholic faith, it was about communicating, and working on strengthening your relationship. Something that can fall behind in the wedding planning.

I was so nervous about pre-cana, but it has honestly been the best part of planning so far. I wouldn't have done it if it weren't required, but I'm so glad we went through it.

Did you have to go through pre-marriage preperation or counseling? Were you nervous?

How Sweet it is...

Some of my earliest childhood memories include cookies. Every Christmas all the girls in the family (and Mr. Newport and BILN- they are great dough rollers) bake at least 15 dozen of about 10 types of cookies-no lie! My mom is known for her cookies. She makes every type imaginable, some of my favorites being classic chocolate chip, pumpkin with a maple glaze, chocolate with caramel and almonds, snowballs, and her famous sugar cookies.

Searching the web I have found so many great places with the cutest sugar cookies, the only real test is whether or not they tatse better than my moms. Ever since I found decorated sugar cookies on the web, I've been in love with the idea of a cookie favor at the wedding. I've been to a decent amount of weddings and my favorite favors always seem to be edible or picture frames.... or honestly, they tend to get thrown out. I love cookies and other edible favors because they are never wasted...at least with me. I've found so many sites with cute cookies, I thought I'd share some favorites.

Eleni's in New York is one of my hands down favorites. Every season there are new options that are cuter than before. I am especially in love with the Wedding collection below. It would be perfect for a "Breakfast at Tiffanys" themed shower. I also think it would be cute to send to a friend who just got engaged.

Casue Sweets seems to be the couture designer of cookies. How amazing are these shells? Perfect for a seaside wedding.
Casue Sweets has the most intricate designs, they'll even custom make cookies designed to match your wedding gown! How unbelievable are these: I love these starfish and shell sugar cookies from Ali's Sweet Treats. They fit perfect with our nautical theme. I think they would be a cute addition to our Out of Town Welcome bags. A Dozen Eggs, located in New England has so many cute options. My personal favorite is Penant Fever. My sister's fiance proposed to her at Fenway Park where they had their first date. So we threw them a Red Sox themed Engagement party and of course we bought a few of the Penant Fever Cookie Collections and they were a HUGE hit at the party!



At my god-daughter's baby shower, we used K-Delights. The cookies were delicious. I think the diamond ring sugar cookies would have been perfect for our engagement party. After a lot of price research on sugar cookies on the web, I think K-Delights was the cheapest option I found. Most cookies range around $5.00 up to much more, but they had options under $3.00.
I love these cookies from Meli and Angi. I like that they are personalized. I think they would be a cute favor tied up in a package with a ribbon.
One of my favorite cookies I've seen on the web is this clever "Crabcake" from Maine Cake and Cookies. It's perfect for a clambake wedding.


I found these monogrammed beauties at Rolling Pin Productions. They are perfect for a garden party or English tea themed shower.

Are you trying to incorporate a favorite family memory into your wedding?