Thursday, April 9, 2009

DJ Experience - Part 2

We had a great expereince on our first DJ meeting, the second one.....not so much. We drove to RI for the meeting and about 5 minutes in, we knew he was not the one.

He started the interview by asking what we are looking for, which kind of threw us off. We like to hear their style before saying what we are looking for because we fear they will just say what they think we want them to hear. So we gave a brief description on what we are looking for- lots of dancing and fun. Pretty basic. I explained we went to a wedding this past year, where they had guests dancing from right after the bride and groom's first dance through the end of the night, in a way that didn't interrupt dinner. He spoke about how this could be hard because of interrupting dinner, which we have seen it work and spoke to our first DJ about and he spoke about the flow of the evening and how to best incorporate dancing throughout the evening. Then he started talking...a lot.

We were there for about 2 hours and we hardly said a word. We did say that we did not want to do a garter toss or a chicken dance, not that there is anything wrong with's just not us. Instead of leaving it at that, he explaiend different ways he worked these into weddings in more unique ways, and explaiend them for about 15 minutes. He also spoke for a long time about anniversary dances, which we don't plan on doing. He spent a lot of time speaking of things we didn't want, which he would have known if he just asked. I felt like I couldn't interrupt him and say we don't want that, because I didn't want to be rude.

We asked a few questions, but not many. We knew we didn't want to use him early in, he was a little outdated and just didn't get what we were looking for. I didn't want to be rude, so we asked a few questions, but we got to the point where we were afraid to ask questions, ebcause we didn't want to prolong the meeting and get stuck there longer. We didn't want to waste his time.

I honestly have enjoyed every other vendor metting we have been on, other than our first videographer appointment, which was a little akward since I wasn't prepared. Even that one was enjoyable compared to this. By the end of this meeting my eyes were burning and I had a headache. Even when we thought we were done, he tried selling us other services including videography, which we told him we already have.

One thing our first DJ warned us about was DJ's who spend a lot of time talking about their sound systems. Most people don't know what is good or bad and this goes over their heads. Well, when we talked to DJ #2, he spent plenty of time on the equipment, like little detaisl about how the equipment is made and how it can break and on and on...I literally zoned out for awhile, I just couldn;t comprehend what he was speaking about. I left feeling really bad for bringing Mr. Newport and my Mom to this meeting, and I felt bad for wasting the DJ's time. We have no interest, but I always feel rude saying so. I know I have to send him an e-mail saying we are not interested, which I will do soon.

Has anyone else had a really bad vendor meeting? How did you handle it? Do you have any suggestions on how to cut down the time on a meeting without being rude?


Kelley at My Island Wedding said...

Wow. This guy has no idea how to run a first meeting. Obviously. And not to sound crude..., but what do you care if you appear to be rude to him. Two hours is alot of both your time.

You don't need the burning eyes or the headache. If you and your fiance can tell from right off..., signal to each other, excuse yourself and just leave. "Thank you for your time, but we don't feel the connection we need." Many more thanks, etc. and off you go.

Take some Excedrin and call it a night!

Good luck!

Aylee Bits said...

I'm sorry the meeting didn't go well. At least you always have the first DJ. How many more DJs are you meeting? We haven't starting meeting DJs yet. Do you mind if I ask for a list of those you recommend and not recommend? My email is aylee at gnyc dot net. Thanks!

RhodeyGirl/Sabrina said...

that's annoying!!!!

you should check out anthony crocenzi. he is really amazing. we have seen him at other events (not weddings) and he really knows how to read a crowd. very reasonable too!

i heard music express is good as well but i haven't seen them in action!